REDEFINE by Karl Elliott
Life after alcohol
You stopped drinking.
Now build what comes next.
A private community for men and women who are 6+ months alcohol-free and want connection, community and collaboration around them.
Stopping drinking can change your friendships, your social life, your routines and even how you see yourself. REDEFINE is for the stage when alcohol is no longer the whole story, but you are still asking what the next part of life is meant to look like.
START YOUR 28 DAYS FREE£0 today. Then £49/month from day 29. Cancel before the trial ends and you will not be charged.
Tuesday 8pm community callMonthly guest sessionQuarterly UK meet-upsPrivate member community
Maybe this is the bit nobody warned you about
Maybe what you miss is not drinking. Maybe it is your people.
You can be proud of stopping and still feel like something has gone missing.
- Your old social life no longer fits in quite the same way.
- Some friendships changed when drinking stopped being the default.
- The early excitement of being alcohol-free has settled down.
- You are no longer focused on getting through another sober weekend.
- You are asking bigger questions about identity, purpose, relationships and what you want to build.
- You want people around you who understand the change without making alcohol the centre of every conversation.
REDEFINE exists for that stage. Not to help you stop drinking. To help you build the life around the decision you already made.
Tuesday is REDEFINE night
One fixed night. A community you can actually rely on.
Every Tuesday at 8:00pm UK, members come together on Google Meet. You do not need to book every week. You know the room is there.
First TuesdayStandards Reset. Look at the basics and notice what has slipped.
Second TuesdayLife After Alcohol. Friendships, identity, work, purpose, relationships and what comes next.
Third TuesdayGuest Session. Useful people, expertise and stories that add something to the room.
Fourth TuesdayMember Room. Less teaching, more honest conversation about what is actually going on.
Fifth Tuesday? We keep it open for a member-led conversation, open room or something the community wants to create.
What is inside
This is more than access to a Facebook group.
Facebook is the conversation layer. The value is the rhythm, the people, the shared experiences and the things that begin to happen because members know one another.
Weekly
Tuesday community room
One live member session every Tuesday at 8pm UK, with a clear monthly rhythm.
Monthly
Guest sessions
People with useful experience across health, movement, neurodiversity, work, purpose, creativity and life after alcohol.
Ongoing
The Eight Standards
Nutrition, movement, hydration, sleep, quiet time, appearance, connection and alcohol removed. Not perfection. Standards you come back to.
Member-led
Run & Walk
Find people nearby, train for something, arrange a walk, enter an event or simply move more with others around you.
Private
Live member calendar
Your calendar is shared privately to your member email so Tuesday sessions and future updates stay easy to see.
Quarterly
Meet in real life
Four planned UK meet-ups each year so online relationships have the chance to become real ones.
The calendar is already built
You should never join and wonder what happens next.
The first year already has a visible rhythm. Topics can evolve with the members, but the community does not start as an empty room.
20 October 2026
Welcome: Find Your People Again
The first REDEFINE community night and the start of the founding experience.
27 October 2026
Who Are My People Now?
What happens socially when you change and the people around you do not necessarily change with you.
3 November 2026
The Eight Standards Baseline
Where are the basics strong and where have they drifted?
10 November 2026
Guest: What Becomes Possible After Alcohol
A guest-led conversation about the life that can open up after alcohol stops being the centre of it.
Four UK meet-ups are already in the diary
12 Dec 2026
London
London
20 Mar 2027
Bristol
Bristol
19 Jun 2027
Leeds
Leeds
18 Sep 2027
Birmingham
Birmingham
Meet-up access is part of the community. Travel, food, accommodation and optional activities are paid separately by members. Exact venues are confirmed nearer each date.
Why I care about this
I thought stopping drinking might make my life smaller.
When I stopped drinking in June 2016, I had only committed to 90 days. What surprised me was not just what disappeared when alcohol did. It was what arrived because I started meeting different people and putting myself in different rooms.
Community changed the direction of my life. Through the people I met after stopping, I eventually met Claire. That chain of events led to marriage, twin daughters, writing my book, building my work, joining a triathlon team, running a marathon and creating a life I could not have seen from the pub.
The biggest thing community gave me was not somebody telling me what to do. It was being around people who made a different life feel normal and possible.
REDEFINE is my attempt to build that kind of room deliberately. A place where people know one another, contribute, create things and help each other keep moving forward.
The culture
You are not joining to sit quietly and consume content.
Members are encouraged to create things, start useful conversations and bring something to the room.
- Start a conversation.
- Suggest a walk, run, challenge or local coffee.
- Share what you are building.
- Ask for help when you need it.
- Offer useful experience when it can genuinely help someone else.
- Bring an idea forward instead of waiting for Karl to create everything.
Contribution comes before promotion.
Expertise is welcome. Prospecting is not. The member list is not a lead list and unsolicited sales DMs are not part of REDEFINE.
Expertise is welcome. Prospecting is not. The member list is not a lead list and unsolicited sales DMs are not part of REDEFINE.
Who this is for
REDEFINE starts after the first part of the story.
This is a strong fit if:
- You are at least 6 months alcohol-free.
- You are functioning, living your life and no longer looking for early sobriety support.
- You want more connection, friendship, purpose, activity or collaboration around you.
- You are willing to contribute as well as consume.
- You want alcohol-free life to become part of your story, not the only thing you talk about.
This is not:
- Detox, withdrawal support or medical care.
- Early sobriety or relapse-prevention support.
- Therapy, counselling or crisis support.
- Unlimited private coaching with Karl.
- A sales or networking group built around pitching members.
The aim
After three months, you should be able to name five people here you genuinely know.
Not five profile pictures. Five people you have spoken with, learned about, supported, met or built something alongside.
That is the standard. REDEFINE should feel useful enough, human enough and connected enough that you would notice if it disappeared.
28 days free
Join REDEFINE
£49/month
Your first 28 days are free. We collect your card securely at signup so there is nothing to chase later.
- Private REDEFINE Facebook community
- Live community call every Tuesday at 8pm UK
- One guest session each month
- The Eight Standards rhythm
- REDEFINE Run & Walk
- Private live member calendar
- Four quarterly UK meet-ups
- Member-led conversations, challenges and activities
£0 today. £49/month from day 29. Cancel before the trial ends and you will not be charged.
What happens next? Stripe takes your card securely, then sends you to the REDEFINE welcome page. From there you request access to the private Facebook group using the same email address you joined with.
Questions
Frequently asked questions
Why do I need to be 6+ months alcohol-free?
REDEFINE is deliberately built for life after the earliest stage of stopping. It is not detox, relapse prevention or early sobriety support. The main conversation here is what you are building next.
I have been alcohol-free for years. Is this still for me?
Yes, if you still want community, new relationships, shared activity and a place to contribute. The strongest immediate need may often be around 6 to 24 months, but long-term alcohol-free members can add huge value to the room.
Is this just a Facebook group?
No. Facebook is the day-to-day conversation layer. The membership also includes the Tuesday live room, guest sessions, the Eight Standards, member-led activity, the private calendar and quarterly meet-ups.
Do I have to speak on the Tuesday calls?
No. You can talk, listen, ask questions or simply be there. Camera on or off is your choice. The aim is to make connection possible, not force participation.
Can I cancel during the free trial?
Yes. Cancel before the end of the 28-day trial and you will not be charged. If you stay, the membership moves to £49 per month automatically from day 29.
Can I cancel after I become a paying member?
Yes. You can manage your billing and cancel through Stripe's secure Customer Portal. Cancellation takes effect at the end of your current paid billing period.
Are the quarterly meet-ups included in the £49?
Your access to the member meet-ups is included. Travel, accommodation, food and optional paid activities are your own cost.
What if I need therapy, medical or crisis support?
REDEFINE is not medical, psychological or emergency care. If you need professional or urgent support, use the appropriate healthcare or emergency service rather than relying on the community.